Right now all of you are probably thinking isn't it "The Calm before the Storm?"
Well for me right now in my life it is the storm before the calm. Someone very close to me is going through a stressful time right now and he has shut down and worst of all he has shut me out of his pain. Some of you may know who I am talking about and for those who don't, it's my husband Brian. Near the end of October Brian's mom passed away.
I want to help him and make all the guilt, stress and pain go away but, he won't let me help. I feel like I am up against a brick wall and I can't go through it, over it or even break it down. This is affecting our relationship and I am worried he will never get past his sorrow. I know it's going to take time and I appreciate that but, I want to snap my fingers and make it all go away but, it doesn't work like that in life. It takes baby steps every day.
For now I have to let him grieve and give him all the space he needs even if it's hard for me to do that. Don't get me wrong I do want him to take all the time he needs to heal, it's just hard watching it and not being able to do anything about it.
Susan Crawford
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I think that when we take our wedding vows there should be a part that requests that we be patient with each other, even when we think we have the answer. All you can do is offer love and patience and he has to do the rest. He is lucky to have a wife who is willing to wait out the storm.
ReplyDeleteHi Sihing,
ReplyDeleteHope you are feeling better? Thank you for your comment. It puts things into a better perspective for me.
Susan